Breaking the Generational Curse of Anger

Anger is not in anyone’s nature. Nobody is born angry. Nobody wants to be angry. Anger doesn’t make us superhuman.

It is a self-defence mechanism — a coping reflex the body throws up in the form of aggression and negative emotions. Anger is rarely about the present situation. The situation is just a trigger. It awakens fear, insecurity, and old wounds we’ve carried for years. Bad experiences pile up, building a fragile, oversensitive, unprotected shell inside us — a place we never want to revisit.

So when anything touches that shell, the brain sounds the alarm: Danger. The same unwanted conditions might return. We defend ourselves with the animal instinct of violence, loudness, or withdrawal.

This anger is tricky.

It travels across generations.

A person who’s endured unevenness or hardship often grows anger as a shield. But its deepest victims are not outsiders — they’re the family, especially the child.

The tender mind and soft body of a child tremble at violent noise or aggression. Fear shapes their little organs. Their emotions twist into awkward shapes. And the cycle begins again, passing anger to the next generation.

But one generation must stop it.

One person must see the harm.

One parent must decide: It ends with me.

I have decided.

I will STOP 🛑 the disease that generations have passed on.

I have promised my child: I will not be angry anymore. She believes me. I always keep my promises. I will not break her trust. I will not let my child die under the weight of a burden she never chose.

This promise is etched into every cell of my body. My body is mutating. My instincts are changing for her. Because I have seen the fear in her eyes. I have seen her organs shut down, her hands tremble. I cannot let it continue.

It is good that I am the girl of my family. I believe any generational curse can only truly be broken by the girl of the family — because she becomes the mother. She carries the curse, she carries the power, and at some point her maternal instinct alarms her so deeply that she chooses to change.

I have chosen.

I have promised.

And with me, the curse of anger breaks.